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June 2017
 Newsletter Editor:  Heather Blessing, MA, LMFT
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We are now at at Rancho Cordova City Hall - Click Here for Directions   
Special Feature -
Editing My Personal History by Heather Cassandra Blessing, LMFT

We want to thank our amazing volunteers for the month of May:
Carolyn Nelson
Lynn Baker-Nauman

Letter from the Board

June 1, 2017

Hello {Contact_First_Name} {Contact_Last_Name}, 
I hope you had a wonderful Memorial Day. Our workshop on May 5th went very well. Our next event this Friday, June 2nd, is another promising event:  Self-of-the-therapist: An experiential workshop addressing attitudes towards bisexuality and homosexuality presented by Ariana Lozano.  The 3000 Club continues with excellent presentations and is well attended.  The meeting this Friday is Mindfulness Practices that can be taught to clients presented by Dr. Cathy Connors .

As a board we are in process of aligning our strategic plan with the plan released by CAMFT at the annual conference in Santa Clara--it was a great conference.

If you haven't, don't forget to register for our annual Law and Ethics training on July 28th and 29th. We host Dave Jensen, JD and our former president Darlene Davis, LMFT.  For more information, click here.

I look forward to seeing you at our events.

All the best,

David Clark

  This issue:
· Letter From the Board
· Legal Beagle

· Presentation Summary
· Upcoming Event
· Upcoming Board Meetings

· Special Feature
· Letters to the Editor

· Psyched about Books and Movies

· Paid MFT Internships
· Advertising and Announcements

· Advertising Policy for the Newsletter


David Clark, MFT Intern

Talal Alsaleem, LMFT

Past President:
Patricia Saint James, LMFT

Adriana Joyner, LMFT

Billy Schult, MFT Intern

Program Co-Chairs:

Nate Hooper, LMFT
Susan Martin, MFT Trainee

3000 Club Chair:
Suzy Lee, LMFT

Volunteer Chair:
Angie Moxey, LMFT

Membership Chair:

Jessica Wolff, LMFT

Sponsorship Co-Chairs:


Legal Beagle

dectective.pngWelcome to the section of the SVC-CAMFT newsletter, Legal Beagle written by Darlene Davis, LMFT. The chapter thought it would be helpful to keep you updated on new laws, legislative pursuits or actions, as well as ongoing legaland ethical dilemmas we all face in our career as Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, Interns, and Trainees. Please feel free to ask questions that you have and I will do my best to investigate and post your answer in the newsletter. Please note that articles are based on information from CAMFT and/or the BBS and have been researched to the best of my ability. This is not meant to be legal advice.  Please contact CAMFT or Board of Behavioral Sciences for any legal matters you need assistance for.


This is a quarterly column.  You can always send questions to info@svccamft.org with any questions you want answered in this column.


Darlene Davis, LMFT Executive Director HOPE; Healthy Outcomes for Personal Enrichment MFT Stipend Coordinator for Greater Sacramento Instructor of University of Phoenix www.darlenedavismft.com www.hope-counselingcenter.org

if you are an intern and need the new Law and Ethics training - go to http://www.darlenedavismft.com/Services-for-Interns---Trainees.html


  May Presentation Summary

Learning to Breathe Underwater: Self-Compassion for Caregivers
(2 CEs)

Sean Cook PsyD and Luana Coloma Cook PsyD

SVC-CAMFT’s May 2017 workshop presented by Sean Cook and Luana Coloma Cook.  Using experiential activities Sean and Luana showed us how we often do not have self-compassion.  We often judge ourselves harder than we judge others.  They gave great ideas and techniques on how to be compassionate to ourselves, especially since we are caregivers to others and how this can in turn benefit those we care for.


June Events


Topic: Mindfulness Practices that can be taught to clients
Dr. Cathy Connors
Date: Friday, June 2. 2017
Time: 8:30am to 9:30am
Location:  Rancho Cordova City Hall,
                2729 Prospect Park Drive,
                Rancho Cordova, CA 95670 (map)
Free Coffee and Donuts
Space is limited so please register here
Workshop Information:  Dr. Cathy Connors will teach mindfulness practices that can be taught to our clients and used for ourselves, 

Presenter Bio: Dr. Cathy Connors believes that we are all powerful healers but sometimes we get caught up in life and lose our "knowing".

** Please be courteous and send us an email at info@svccamft.org if you are unable to attend after you have registered. **


Topic:  Self-of-the-therapist: An experiential workshop addressing attitudes towards bisexuality and homosexuality.
Ariana Lozano
  Friday, June 2, 2017
Time: 10:00 AM to 12:00PM
Location: Rancho Cordova City Hall,
2729 Prospect Park Drive,
Rancho Cordova, CA 95670 (map)

Doors Open at 9:00 AM

Registration and Networking starts at 9:00 AM

This program will benefit LMFT, LPCC, LEP and LCSW licensees and pre licensees by using the "Guidelines for psychological practice with lesbian, gay, and bisexual clients" (APA, 2012) outlines twenty-one guidelines for affirmative psychotherapy with sexual minorities. Of these twenty-one guidelines, the first six directly address clinician attitudes toward homosexuality and bisexuality. This presentation will provide definitions, as well as challenge, licensees to address their own attitudes towards homosexuality and bisexuality.

Includes: Breakfast and meets the qualifications for 2 hours of continuing education credit for LMFTs, LCSWs, LPCCs, and/or LEPs as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences.  Sacramento Valley Chapter of California Marriage and Family Therapist CAMFT CEPA CE Provider #62279 CE Credit will be awarded on site and to participants at completion of the course. 
No CEs will be awarded to persons arriving late or leaving early. Partial CE credit will not be awarded.

Workshop Information:

This workshop will assist licensees in the ethical treatment of sexual minorities by challenging clinicians to explore themes that often come up with sexual minorities in mental health treatment. Sexual identity development is not often thought about by folks whose gender and sexual identity coincide with social norms. By providing licensees with an experiential connection to the process of understanding one’s own sexuality, this workshop hopes to give licensees access to the process that sexual minorities often experience on their path to sexual identity liberation. Additionally, this experience will provide licensees with an additional tool in ethically treating and understanding their sexually conforming clients in treatment. The whole of this presentation, including a review of the literature as well as the experiential component, will work together to provide mental health clinicians with a valuable new perspective on their own internal attitudes toward bisexuality and homosexuality. ey already have about the LGB community. 

9:00 am Registration Starts
9:00am - 9:45am - Networking
9:45am - 10:00am - Announcements
10:00am - 11:00am - Workshop
11:00am - 11:10am - Break
11:10am - noon - workshop
noon - Workshop Ends

Learning Objectives:
1.  Be able to define: 1) heteronormative assumptions; 2) heterosexual privilege; 3) heterosexual identity; and 4) micro-aggressions towards sexual minorities.

2.  Be able to explore their own relationship with: 1) heteronormative assumptions; 2) heterosexual privilege; 3) heterosexual identity; and 4) micro-aggressions towards sexual minorities.

3.  Have a foundational experience from which to continue to “do the work” regarding the intersection of their self-of-the-therapist and their own attitudes towards bisexuality and homosexuality.

Presenter Bio:
Ariana Lozano M.A., MFT-I, received their certificate in LGBTQ Human Services and Mental Health through the Rockway Institute, along with their M.A. from Alliant International University, in 2016. Ariana is a committed social justice activist and has been a community organizer in the Sacramento area since 2010. Most of their work and volunteer experience has been in the feminist, queer, and Latinx communities, including 16 months of clinical work at the Gender Health Center in Sacramento, where they enriched their craft in affirmative psychotherapy with sexual minorities and transgender/gender nonconforming folks. Ariana has also been involved in prevention/intervention work in the fields of intimate partner violence and sexual violence since 2012. Currently, their clinical interests include LGBTQ+, trauma/abuse, parent/child relationships, polyamory and nonmonogamy, sex/body positivity, and diversity/cross-cultural differences.

Register and pay online or register online and pay at the door with check or cash.

Early registration ends Tuesday, May 30th Early registration rates*:

2017 Licensed, Associate or Affiliate Member of SVC-CAMFT or a local chapter of CAMFT: $20

2017 Pre-Licensed Member of SVC-CAMFT or a local chapter of CAMFT: $15

Non-Member: $30

*Add $5 for late or "at-door" registration

For information on joining SVC-CAMFT or renewing your membership for 2017 please email: info@svccamft.org

Refund Policy
Cancellations received more than 7 days prior to an event may be subject to an administrative fee to cover costs of the initial transaction.  No shows, failure to attend, and cancellations 7 or fewer days prior to an event for any reason are non-refundable, including registrations received fewer than 7 days prior to an event. No credit, refunds, or price adjustments will be given for typographical advertisement errors. A $25 fee in addition to the registration fee will be charged for insufficient funds, denied credit cards, or charge-backs. By registering for the event you agree to the terms of the Refund Policy.

Grievance Policy is located here.

To request accommodations for a disability for any of our events contact our Administrative Assistant at info@svccamft.org

2017 Upcoming Workshops

 Date CEs Topic Speaker Location         
 June 2
 2 LGBTQ+ Ariana Lozano Rancho Cordova City Hall (map)
 July 28 & 29
 12 2 Day Law and Ethics
 David Jensen & Darlene Davis
 Rancho Cordova City Hall (map)
 September 1
 2 Psychodrama Kathy Campbell
 Rancho Cordova City Hall (map)
 October 6
 6 Sex Addiction
 Robert Weiss
 Rancho Cordova City Hall (map)
November 3
 2 What Every Therapist Should Know About Insurance - Even If You Want Nothing To Do With It
 Barbara Griswold
Rancho Cordova City Hall (map)

Upcoming Board Meetings

Board Meetings are FREE for anyone to attend BUT you MUST register so we have an accurate headcount.
To Register click on the board meeting(s) you wish to attend.


Special Feature

Editing My Personal History

By:  Heather Cassandra Blessing, LMFT

A colleague of mine recently was discussing June being Pride Month.  She stated she believes everyone should live and let live but doesn't get why LGBTQ have to have "Pride Month".  She said as a therapist she doesn't care what goes on in the bedroom other than the parties are consenting and getting what they need out of their relationship.  I was around a few other people who I wasn't comfortable coming out to, so I let it go.


This is what is hard for me.  Not always can I use myself as a learning tool for people who do not understand why we need to make LGBTQ issues part of the normal conversation.  People don't realize how often you have to choose how you explain your personal history when you are not heterosexual or trans* or something outside of the majority.


Somehow it is easier in writing to explain or come out - maybe because then I don't have to deal with uncomfortable looks or not so nice looks in person.  So here is why I am writing this.


If I say I have been married 3 times, everyone assumes that it was to 3 different men.  Everyone assumes heterosexual relationships.  This is a common topic when getting to know people is are they married, how long, how many times have you been married and if you are among therapists or building friendships often what happened.  I am great at editing.  Marriage 1 - I was 17 when we met, after 15 years I changed and we parted friends and are great co-parents.  Marriage 2 - they were more committed to beer than to me.  Marriage 3 - madly in love and still going strong after more than 10 years together.   Sometimes I can get away from some probing questions with - its in the past or I don't really want to dwell on it.  But it leads to some issues when you mention you did something or you saw a concert and you cannot easily say with my 2nd husband.


So, yes my first marriage was to a man, but my second marriage was to a woman and my current marriage is to a wonderful transman although I don't think of him as transgender very often.  My second marriage to a woman was my shortest marriage, her relationship with beer was too much for our marriage.   We went to marriage counseling but the problem was neither therapist really understood the issues.  Both therapists said they were LGBTQ friendly, but friendly doesn't always mean they understand.  My wife was brought up in a very conservative Christian background and she dealt with a lot of self-hatred that she self-medicated with alcohol.  She constantly went back and forth about whether she wanted to be an out lesbian couple or "roommates" in front of people.  One therapist said well you can just tell people your married and not say much else.  So what are you supposed to say then when your boss wants to know if you and your husband are going to the company party.  Do you correct them or go with the old stand-by "Sorry we are busy".  Neither of the therapists understood how much the judgment of society affected our marriage.  How much it affected each of our own identities. 


This is something most heterosexual people don't have to worry about.  When talking about things you have done like a vacation you took, you don't say you and your second spouse went to Clear Lake, you can sex "one of my ex's and I went to Clear Lake", but then you have to struggle with pronouns.  "They hated the mosquitoes and got bit up - but it wasn't a problem for me sounds a bit odd."


Or there is the name edit.  If their name was Danielle you might switch it to Daniel if you know you are in a conservative crowd or shorten it to D.  You have to be careful about what pictures you have up in your house if you have people over that you don't want to know your past.  Facebook or other social media has to be edited in case someone comes across it. 


Then there are those strange questions that if you didn’t have to think about something so much you could have just said "that is kind of personal."  One of my bosses asked after my current husband and I got married if we were going to have any kids together.  It seemed easy to answer as it was a no.  He then went on to state that men often need to feel that they have a biological connection via a child and maybe I should make sure he didn't want any.  I stumbled and just said "we have already talked about it"  when really I should have just shut him down and said it is personal.


My personal favorite was me undergoing a female related procedure.  They asked if I could be pregnant and I said no.  They said how was I sure, I said I am on birth control.  They said it can fail and could I do a pregnancy test.  At this point I had already been fasting for 18 hours with no water for nearly 12 - I was not going to be able to do the quick pregnancy test.  They even talked about not doing the procedure until they could confirm it.  I was trying very hard not to out my current husband, and he could see I was flustered and stated he had silicon testicles.  The medical staff must have thought it was due to some accident or cancer and apologized and went ahead with the procedure. 


And then if you are out, the crazy personal questions you get from people.  When I was married to my wife, I had several people ask versions of "Would you let a guy watch?", "Have you considered having a man join your marriage?", "Do you scissor?", "How do lesbian's have sex?", "Who is the man?", "Do you use toys or who wears the strap-on?", "Have you ever had sex with a man before?", "Did someone molest you?", "Are you a man-hater?"  How many people get questions about their sex life?  I have never gotten those types of questions when people assume I am in a heterosexual relationship.


If people know I am married to a transman they ask questions like, "Have you ever been with a REAL man?", "How do you have sex?", "What does his lower half look like?" and so many other inappropriate things.  People never ask me such things if they don't know my husband is transgender.   *Please note - these are not the people and times I have told people to ask me anything - these are just random things asked or said by people who know the out me.

One of my biggest issues is my editing of my history and then actually becoming close enough to someone to come out.  It has caused some problems because sometimes they think I was being dishonest and not understanding that often editing is safer choice if you are not sure how people will react.  And safety is the reason that I often have to choose to edit my personal history.   Just a few months ago I gave a presentation at a company and afterwards, while walking out to my car, one of the men from the training followed me out telling me that if he could get me into bed he would show me what a REAL man could do.  I ignored him but he started sending emails with "dick pics" until I contacted the company and let them know.


Until LGBTQ do not have to edit their personal history because it is considered "normal" we do need Pride Month and Pride Events to get the information out there and normalized. 




The views expressed in the Special Feature Articles do not necessarily reflect the Sacramento Valley Chapter of CAMFT or CAMFT. They should be understood as the personal opinions of the author. No information in this article will be understood as official.  Other views and commentary are welcome and will be published as long as they are respectful and stick to the topic.

Letters to the Editor
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Psyched about Books and Movies

Welcome to "Psyched about Books and Movies!"  Each month we include a book or movie review by one of our readers.  Please see below guidelines on submitting a review. 

Title: Real Boy
Rating: Not Rated
Release Date: Monday, June 19, 2017 10pm EST on PBS
Reviewer: Heather Blessing, LMFT

I was able to see this movie as it was being made and then at one of the private showings here in Sacramento. It is a documentary on a transgender teen boy and the journey he goes on while transitioning.  His relationship with his mother goes through changes as he transitions.  Using music as a way to express himself, you can really start to feel what he is gong through.


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Paid Internships
Listing Provided by:

Prelicensed is a free resource for MFT registered interns, trainees, and students in California. We offer numerous services that are designed to help you prepare and prevail over the course of your journey to licensure

Clinician – TIC
 - Sacramento, CA - Children's Receiving Home of Sacramento

Marriage Family Therapist Intern - Rocklin, CA - Sunset Counseling Center, Inc.

Marriage and Family Therapist Trainee/Intern - Roseville, CA - Hearts and Hands Counseling


For more job listings and other free resources, visit Prelicensed!

Also note  SVC-CAMFT and Sierra Valley CAMFT are working together to put on a job fair!

Job Fair will be from 10am to 2pm Sat. August 5th 


Heritage Oaks Hospital Outpatient Services

1899 E. Roseville Parkway Suite 150

Roseville, CA 95661

More information will be coming soon.

Advertising and Announcements


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The Center for Healthy Relationships (TheRelatePlace.com) is seeking interns or newly licensed therapists who have training in couples and family therapy and who are interested in facilitating psycho-educational classes. Those with a particular interest in Sexual Addiction Treatment, Partner Trauma, and the healing of relationships recovering from the wreckage of addiction are particular encourage to inquire. This nonprofit agency was founded by the one the region’s leading Certified Sex Addiction therapists and the only Intensive Outpatient Program treating sexual addiction and partner trauma. Our long-time experience affords the motivated intern the opportunity to master the essential skills. Please send resume and cover letter to Kevin Phillips at Kap121960@gmail.com.


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